After years of kissing a lot of frogs, you have finally found your prince. Your parents and your
siblings adore him. You know the perfect place to get married. And your friends are eager to
be bridesmaids. All your romantic dreams are coming true and then your mother asks, “What
sort of budget do you have for this wedding?” “Budget?” you wail. “Really, mother?” And in
one sentence your wedding planning comes to a grinding halt.
But that’s life, isn’t it? For all the ideas we have about dream dates and dream homes and
dream weddings, the word ‘budget’ is a big consideration for 99% of us. Somewhere on our
wedding planning checklist – usually at the top – there is a note about how much we have to
spend on our big day.
So how do we go about planning our dream wedding without having our budget take the
romance out of everything?
- Decide Who is Contributing
Traditionally, the bride’s parents paid for almost everything. In some cultures that is still true.
More often though, the bride and groom pay for everything themselves OR the bride, groom,
his parents and her parents split the costs. Once you’ve made the decision to have a
wedding, ask those tough questions and find out who is going to contribute financially. If
possible, get together as a group and document who is paying for what.
- Determine What Your Budget Will Cover
There is nothing to say that a couple that spends $50,000 on their wedding will be any
happier than the couple that has $7,000 to spend. But you know their weddings are going to
look much different. Crunch your numbers and build your dream wedding based on what you
- Decide What is Non-negotiable
If you have an unlimited budget – and wouldn’t that be nice? – then you can have everything
and anything you want. But if you have a more restricted budget, decide what is non-
negotiable. Do you absolutely, positively have to have fresh orchids? Perhaps you can but
you need to but back on other parts of the ceremony and reception. Maybe a horse-drawn
carriage from the ceremony to the reception is something you can live without.
- Research! Research! Research!
There are lots of options for live bands, for instance. A local college music department may
have students eager to play at events for a lot less than a professional group. A small, start-
up bakery might be able to offer you a better deal than a franchised business.
- Don’t Go Into Debt
Play the long game. Would you like to spend $60,000 on your one-day wedding OR would
you prefer to start married life off without debt? Debt repayment is, by its very nature,
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